The Bachelor

Alright folks, it's the post you've all been waiting for 

well, the people who read my previous blog at least have been waiting for it... 

or maybe there has already been a post about it from someone else.  Oh well... here is another one

It's a little long but bare with me because I think it's a good read :) (no bias)

I find the concept of 'reality TV' quite hilarious... 

We all know darn well that everything about the Bachelor (as fantastic as it may seem) is so far from reality. 

The dates

Personalities in front of the camera 

The producers messing with this that and the other thing.  

Don't get me wrong, it makes for some serious entertainment, and hey i'm sure it increases the ratings.

But let's think about it real quick. 

The dates are so far from reality and completely over the top extravagant.  They look AMAZING to say the least.  

But no one in the real world is going to go fly on a private jet to a private beach and then take a yacht ride to swim with dolphins on a first date. 

Granted that may have exaggerated just a tad.  But that's the thing.  I'm HARDLY exaggerating.  

All this does to women all across the country is daydream and think "well I want all that".  

For single women, this makes their expectations go way way up which means... Sorry men!  Tough luck! Unless you can drop a solid $10,000 on a first date, forget it.  

That's just unfair, and IT'S NOT REAL.

For the women on the show, it gives them this fake sense of reality.  They get caught up in this fantasized world and are thinking this is how it should be all the time.  

The one women that ends up "winning" or getting engaged by the end of the show is going to have to face real world which, sorry honey, is going to be a bit of a downer compared to the life they've been living the past few months.  

There have been a few success stories that came out of the Bachelor or the Bachelorette, but I can honestly say I don't think it worked out because both men and women got caught up in this dream world paid for by ABC Family and the Producers and what not, and once they have to get back into their normal lives and are surviving again paying taxes and dealing with real world situations, they realize the person they met and fell in love with, isn't the same person in the real world. 

which brings me to my second point,

Think about how you act when you are in front of a camera...

You may try and put on a show and be funnier or more charming than you normally are

Or if you're like me you all of a sudden develop a filter and try the new concept of thinking before you speak

You all of a sudden become very aware of what you are saying and doing because you essentially have tons of people stalking you with huge equipment and no matter how hard you try to ignore it 

you know they are there and watching and documenting your every move... 

This alone creates a whole new identity for each person.  None of the women or men on the show are who they are in real life, on the show simply because you can't be yoruself while being watched by that many people or when you are in a mansion with that many people of the same gender fighting for the attention of one other person... 

The last point I would like to introduce, is the producers.  

They're great aren't they? 

They make sure there is drama Drama DRAMA 

and we (the strange and drama hungry people we are) LOVE to watch it. 

It's wonderful isn't it? Why be involved in it when you can just watch it on TV?

All the more reason that what you are watching on The Bachelor is NOT REAL.  We have no idea what the producers have control over and what is scripted and what or who was put on the show for the sole purpose of increasing the ratings.  

We have no idea.. 

So, all in all, if you have friends, roommates, wives, husbands, daughters, whatever watching this show, try to knock common, real world sense into them and make sure they know how unrealistic everything about this show is.  

Don't stop watching it by any means! But understand reality from fantasy and unrealistic expectations.  

I think it is important for us to protect our loved ones and not let them get caught up in this fantasy world.  All we can control is our end. 

unfortunately all the girls on it this season are going to have to fend for themselves because we all know they are going to get caught up in la la Benny Boy land and all will be lost when they return to reality.  

So let's increase the common sense in the world and at least be aware ourselves of how Unrealistic Reality TV is 

(as oxymoronic as that sounds) 

In conclusion, I am obsessed with the Bachelor.  My husband and I are faithful watchers and love to predict who will win and who are our favorites and who are absolutely out of their mind crazy, but we have recently been talking about how funny the concepts are and how nothing in it is real life.  

So, there are my two bits on The Bachelor.  It is still my favorite show.  I am still obsessed with every ounce of drama.  I still pick my favorite and get caught up in the 'love story' and hope with every proposal at the end that it will be one that works out.  Hey, I'm still even 100% on board with the couples that end up together until the day they break up or even when they get married.  I love love and I love with it actually works out :) 

But , you really can't expect too much.  

There you have it :) 

Thanks for Reading! 

E.J. Hunt