So I’ve been noticing something happening a lot lately…
There seems to be one or two or twenty every single weekend…
It’s definitely the season
Can you guess yet?
WEDDINGS!
Tis the season for wedding bells and love!
This is the time of year when anyone and everyone seems to be getting married.
Am I right?
Well I’ve been noticing something else that is a bit disappointing that I thought I would share my feelings on….
Cell phones…
Now, social media is one thing…
I understand the desire to share our lives on social media with our friends and family and those who are genuinely interested in what we are up to…
Hey I’m a victim myself,
I love posting pictures and looking at what other people are up to just as much as the next person.
However something has been bothering me lately. And it’s pictures posted, statuses updated, and activity on social media…
ON YOUR WEDDING DAY.
Maybe this is just my feelings, and if it is, simply accept my words as opinion only, and be done with it. However I personally believe your wedding day should be a time for you to BE WITH your family and friends, and most importantly your new SPOUSE, rather than your nose in your phone worrying about everyone else.
You should be absorbing the BEST DAY OF YOUR LIFE.
Most people aim to get married only once right?
Granted, once you’ve done it, part of you always wants to have another one and get all dressed up again so you can relive it… (Unless that’s just me…)
But the primary goal is to get married once.
If that is the case,
THEN EXPERIENCE YOUR WEDDING.
TRY to soak in the fastest 24 hours of your life that you will want to remember forever.
I have never noticed it much until this particular wedding season that people have become so engulfed in their phones that they can’t even enjoy their wedding day, or honeymoon without posting pictures.
I understand wanting to share your happiness and these monumental moments with social media. However my feelings are the following:
- The people that are AT your wedding are closest to you anyway. The people that aren’t there either weren’t invited so it shouldn’t matter if they see, or they had conflicts. If you had family or friends that were unable to attend, then they can most definitely wait until you are in a time and place when your new husband/wife isn’t consuming all your time. It’s not their day; it’s yours. Your spouse SHOULD be consuming all your time. Getting married is the best feeling in the world. It is a moment that most people look forward to their entire lives. I feel like people should take a day, disregard everyone else in the world with the exception of your spouse.
- Most people know you are getting married on that day. You don’t need to post pictures to remind them…. If you sent them an invite or have invites on Facebook… then your job is done and your focus should be on your special day and your significant other
- Other people that are attending your wedding are posting pictures anyway. If you have people that were unable to attend that you are anxious to show your wedding to, OTHER PEOPLE ARE POSTING. You know darn well that when someone gets married, family and closest friends are posting snapchats, instagrams, and facebook photos ALL DAY LONG. There you go, it’s taken care of!
- Pay attention to your spouse. Phones are a way to distract us from the current situation we are in, and drive our brain to focus on other people and their life. Why on earth would you want to take any moment away from your wedding day? It only happens once… (Hopefully) and it should be a time when your phone is the least important thing you possess.
Dallin and I are human. We have phones, are on them often and love to post pictures on social media. However on our wedding day I don’t even remember if we had our phones with us at all that day. Why?
BECAUSE NOTHING ELSE MATTERED.
The only thing that mattered was that we had just gotten married. Family and friends came to the temple to support, and I was officially sealed to the man of my dreams for time and all eternity. My phone was the least important object I owned. I wanted to spend every second absorbing this day and paying attention to my husband because it was already going by faster than I wanted it to.
On our honeymoon as well, the only reason we even BROUGHT our phones was for alarms, and a camera. The only time we pulled it out to even use it was for the “fun” lady-doctor medical situations (:
**All you newly wed women will understand what I mean**
Other than those reasons, we spent our whole honeymoon spending every minute with one another.
I am not saying I am a perfect example by any means for how/when phones should be used, however I do feel that AT LEAST on your wedding day and honeymoon, people could forget about their phones…
No one else in the world should matter but the person you are with. What is the need for social media at that time?
It makes me sad when people are posting pictures and already changing their name and relationship statuses on Facebook the day of the wedding, or while on the honeymoon. I know it is an exciting thing, but it is just that much time that a person wasted, worrying about what other people think, instead of just disregarding everything in the world minus the one thing that truly matters.
Again, these are simply my thoughts and feelings as I have been watching so many friends and loved ones get married.
I feel sorry for those who post things ON their wedding day because I want them to soak up their special day and disregard social media for ONE DAY or even ONE WEEK.
Weddings go by fast.
They are planned for months and sometimes years and it is all over in what seems to be an instant…
It should be a day where you are completely selfish and worry only about your spouse and the best day of your life.
We are a generation of technological slaves…
And I have noticed it a little bit and been a victim myself, however it has never bothered me so much as it has recently.
Put your phone AWAY
ENJOY your wedding
FORGET about what other people think
And most importantly:
FOCUS on the beginning of an incredible journey and the start to a new life with the one you love.
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